Looks like love's on the line. Source: Supplied
ONE in 10 Aussies has been dumped via a text message and the same number have used SMS to tell someone "I love you" for the first time, a survey suggests.
Relationship counsellors are concerned by the trend for Australians to express their "textual feelings", warning that jilted lovers can take longer to bounce back from electronic break-ups.
One in seven people aged 18 to 24 thinks it is acceptable to end a relationship with an SMS or a posting on social media, a survey shows.
And more than half of Australia's under-35s use text messages as the main form of contact after a first date.
Um, speaking of dumped... what to do when your phone's in the loo
Pure Profile's survey of 2000 Australians, commissioned for internet dating site eHarmony, has found that one in five has sent or received a risque photo - including 10 per cent of the over-45s.
One in 20 Australian adults are dating online, the survey found, and a quarter of them are likely to use SMS as the main form of contact after a first date.
Ten per cent of Australians confess to having dumped a lover with an SMS.
E-Harmony's senior research scientist, Californian psychologist Gian Gonzaga, says texts avoid face-to-face confrontation and conflict - at a cost.
"In the past, people might have picked up the phone or sent a handwritten note," he said while enroute to Australia for a promotional visit.
"But breaking up is a very difficult thing to do and sometimes people take the easy way out with a text message.
"You'd hope that people are able to treat others with the respect they deserve.
"The more impersonal the break-up, the harder it is on the individual at the other end."
Dr Gonzaga advised people to only send text messages they would want to receive themselves.
Relationships Australia spokeswoman Mary-Jo Morgan warned that people jilted via text message can take take longer to get over a break-up.
"People are bolder when they use electronic media. They will often say things they may not have the courage to say face-to-face," she said.
"But it doesn't give the recipient the right of rebuttal, so people are really struggling to go through the normal grieving process of a relationship ending."
Ms Morgan said electronic matchmakers such as internet dating sites could help test couple's compatibility during the "honeymoon period" before they marry or move in.
"If you've got to the point where you've had enough duds, you want somebody to care for you the way you are and the internet is enabling people to say, `This is who I am'," she said.
"You may tend to say more real things about yourself than you might in person."
eHarmony is claiming credit for one in 50 Australian marriages.
Dr Gonzaga advised couples to use technologies such as Skype and email to stay in touch - but not at the expense of human touch.
"How often do you see couples sitting at the table, both looking at their smart phones and paying no attention to each other?" he said.
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